Saturday, July 11, 2009

So, I'm not bitter or anything...


So, here is a little bit of a rant. Okay, maybe not a rant, but I wanted to get this off my chest, so here goes. I was at the park yesterday with Kel and we had been there for almost two hours, so I think that that combined with the fact that it was waaay past dinnertime, made f0r a Grace meltdown. She and Soph had been playing really well together, and then Grace wanted to go on the swing one more time. So we got over there and there was a mom with her one year old on the other one. Anyway, my scaredy cat daughter felt that the baby was swinging too high next to her, so she started crying and wanted out. (Side note... last time we went two twelve year old girls were swinging next to her as high as they could and as a result the swing set was bucking a little bit...) anyway, I was taking Grace out as she cried that she didn't really want to stop, just wanted the baby to stop swinging so high. The mom next to us asked if I needed her to take Kai while I got Grace out so I handed her over, and we did the customary "how old is your kid, they are cute/big/generic comment." Anyway, as she handed Kai back to me, she looks at Grace and says, "Spoiled brat huh?"
Okay, deep breath. I know that people are entitled to their own opinions and thoughts. I am sure that we have all thought that at some point or another about another child. However. I also feel ashamed of myself, b/c I know I did it BEFORE I had children. Who of us, (and I am talking Mothers all around the world) can honestly say that their child has never gotten frusterated, tired, hungry, overwhelmed, ect and gotten upset about something?
The funny thing is, I was more offended than mad. Honestly, when a perfect stranger all of a sudden critiques your child, not only in front of you, but in front of them as well, it just catches you so off guard! It sort of brings out the mama bear in you and you kind of want to lash back!
I tried taking the high road however, and just walked away. But I just wanted to comment on here, that I am sorry to anyone if you have ever felt like I (or anyone else for that matter) judged you or your parenting unfairly. I so totally know that being a mom isn't always tea parties and bubbles. There are the times where you kinda want to drop kick your child through a window... ok maybe thats a little harsh, but you know what I mean. Anyway, what I am trying to say is props to all the moms out there. Our job is super fun, I love it more than anything- But it is work from time to time. And this particular mom isn't passing judgement on anyone.

Anyway, here are some more pics from the aforementioned trip yesterday and a couple others.

Park Time!!!


Gracie and Nana.. Blowing bubbles at each other

My Apx husband and his baby
The Girls now have nightly bath nights together, and this was right after one at my house...
Our other daughter...So cute!

7 comments:

kelseyp said...

ugggggghhhhhh! that lady makes me wanna drop kick her! ps. i love you!

Skye said...

Seriously? Who the heck says stuff like that? I would've lost it...acutally i'm sure i would've done the same, just walked away, but wanted to freak out on her! That sucks. People can be so rude.

Ashley said...

I can't believe that woman thought that, let alone said it OUT LOUD!! GRRRR!

Carrie said...

That's so rude, I can't believe she had the audacity to say that! I know how you feel though, because every so often I've caught myself thinking things like that about kids, then feel bad about it after. But I liked how you put it: first of all we have NO idea what that kid's day has been like, if it's nap time, if they're not feeling the greatest etc. And heck let's give the kids a break - usually they are like 3 years old. What should you expect but a few bumps in the road? They are still learning and growing up right? Let kids be kids! (Not that I'm an expert or anything since I don't even have any kids yet...;)

Anyways, I love ya Kristi, your girls are beautiful and I think it's so awesome how close they (and you) are to Kelsey's fam.

Baker Photography said...

seriously... i first want to make it clear that my gracie is NOT a spoiled brat or whatever she said.... but the most sweetest loveable little girl ever.... and i second kels i would love to drop kick that lady... how rude! i love you and your girls and you are a fabulous mummy! we love you!

the fellers said...

oh man,I would have slapped her, ok, not really, but I would have been SOOOOO mad and bugged at that...I hate it when stuff like that happens.....Grace is So cute....I totally get the tired/hungry/done stage, that happens A LOT at our house!! You are such a cute mom!

Lacey said...

That is so frustrating! Every child has their moments and every parent gets embaressed and frustrated working through those moments with them in the right way. It is especially hard when it's in a public place but you always assume that other mothers understand because they have been there too. I can't belive that anyone would actually say that to you! Don't let her get you down, you're a great Mom and I have heard that your girls are really well behaved. Enjoy the sunshine and try to ignore the grumps of the world!